Here's what I've gleaned from dating, date coaching, and thousands of comments on my dating articles from Huff/Post 50 readers.Boomer Women And Dating Angst There's an undeniable gender gap associated with date forever angst, and what's striking about it is that it's exclusively women who are giving up dating.These intimate friendships offer her safe haven where she receives unconditional support to help her recover from a failed relationship and work through other issues.She socializes with her close friends regularly, whether she's dating or not, i.e., lunches, dinners, vacations, frequent conversations, and activities.An ancillary benefit derived from maintaining long-term friendships is developing relationship skills, because maintaining healthy friendships require concerted effort.And these well-honed friendship skills are transferable to relationships with men, which makes boomer women savvy and desirable partners.And this includes a guy with casual friends he drinks or goes to ball games with, because their dialogue is confined to surface issues.
Absent authentic friendships, a man stuffs his pain and confusion deep in his psyche in the mistaken belief they've disappeared. I was this guy into my early 40s, and it made life, including dating, unnecessarily difficult.I've yet to hear from or about one man who quit dating.Do boomer women simply become more exasperated with dating than boomer men?The Boomer Guide To Finding True Love Online will be available January 1st. Earlier on Huff/Post50: Beth Wexler (Wilson) dancing in the arms of Lawrence Whatley Bourne III (Hanks).After experiencing one too many dating let-downs and at peak fed-up-ness, I’ve sworn off men, toyed with becoming a lesbian, and considered getting cats. Guys are fun, girls don’t rev my engine, and I’m allergic to cats. I kid you not, within a month all those dudes were suddenly interested in my life. We go to certain places because the guy we’re talking to might be there. In trying to mirror their interests, that’s how I spent my time as well, which didn’t work well. There’s so much truth to the adage “You can’t love someone until you love yourself.” We yell about how our love life is disastrous, but we don’t do anything truly different. I don’t think it’s healthy to bounce from guy to guy while trying to work out all the bs kinks in dating.